Why Men Withdraw from Relationships
Not Wanting What You Wanted
Six Feet Under
A Blank Canvas
Ain’t No Mountain High Enough, Ain’t No Recession Low Enough
Avoid the Obvious Guy
California Girl
A Discourse on Dating
As if the break-up wasn’t bad enough, I now was bombarded with emails and IMs from EVERY single person on my friends list asking me what happened. Oh the joy!
I’m not one of these friend collector types who have 1000 friends on FB but only people I actually interact with on a constant basis. But having to answer the same questions and telling the story of what happened about 70 times made the whole situation 70 times worse.
Plus, with us not just being “In a Relationship” but “Engaged with…” it was even more humiliating than “just” breaking up. I mean everyone around us was fired up about the wedding and here we had to go back and tell them it aint happpening. Horrible. At least it was just as bad for him as it was for me.
Initially, I didn’t want to delete him as my friend because it seemed childish. But to be honest, after seeing “Being propositioned is flattering to say the least” as his status message I had to. Yes, it is only the internet, and yes it may sound stupid but having to read things along those lines when you’re hurting already just makes the break-up THAT much worse since I wasn’t out there “getting propositioned” in any way, shape or form.
So I deleted him, his family members and friends because I surely didn’t want to know about him indirectly through them either. Why be FB friends with my ex’s family and friends? There is no point. He didn’t delete any of “my people” until I actually mentioned how I had no more ties with him online. So I guess in order to make a clean cut in the year 2009 we have to break up online as well.
Lesson learned: I will never again let anyone nag me into displaying my relationship status on a damn social networking site. Blah!
Not Wanting What You Wanted
Six Feet Under
A Blank Canvas
Ain’t No Mountain High Enough, Ain’t No Recession Low Enough
Avoid the Obvious Guy
California Girl
A Discourse on Dating
As if the break-up wasn’t bad enough, I now was bombarded with emails and IMs from EVERY single person on my friends list asking me what happened. Oh the joy!
I’m not one of these friend collector types who have 1000 friends on FB but only people I actually interact with on a constant basis. But having to answer the same questions and telling the story of what happened about 70 times made the whole situation 70 times worse.
Plus, with us not just being “In a Relationship” but “Engaged with…” it was even more humiliating than “just” breaking up. I mean everyone around us was fired up about the wedding and here we had to go back and tell them it aint happpening. Horrible. At least it was just as bad for him as it was for me.
Initially, I didn’t want to delete him as my friend because it seemed childish. But to be honest, after seeing “Being propositioned is flattering to say the least” as his status message I had to. Yes, it is only the internet, and yes it may sound stupid but having to read things along those lines when you’re hurting already just makes the break-up THAT much worse since I wasn’t out there “getting propositioned” in any way, shape or form.
So I deleted him, his family members and friends because I surely didn’t want to know about him indirectly through them either. Why be FB friends with my ex’s family and friends? There is no point. He didn’t delete any of “my people” until I actually mentioned how I had no more ties with him online. So I guess in order to make a clean cut in the year 2009 we have to break up online as well.
Lesson learned: I will never again let anyone nag me into displaying my relationship status on a damn social networking site. Blah!